What Do I Do Now?

As therapy progresses, I have had many clients ask this question in one way or another.  When we have enough negative and traumatic experiences early on in life, it’s easy to move into adulthood with hypervigilance and an intense fear of showing up and being vulnerable in anyway.  After a lifetime of this behavior it […]

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Grieving in the Midst of Birthing

I want life to get back to normal. Against our will, we all just left the warm, soothing, familiar comforts of the uterus.  The uterus, representing our old lives before the pandemic, was a life of perceived safety, comfort and predictability.  I say ‘perceived’ because comfort, familiarity, and predictability often get conflated with safety.  As […]

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Meaning & Purpose…

…are the keys to a happy, fulfilling life.  That’s it.  It’s not fancy and it doesn’t involve acquiring stuff.  Discovering your purpose and finding a path that is meaningful to you is literally ALL YOU NEED to be fulfilled. Happiness, joy, and peace all come in the process of discovering your meaning and purpose. The […]

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Boredom. . .not always a bad thing

Years ago, I found myself telling a client that throwing punches and chairs at a casual summer bbq was not actually normal behavior.  I don’t like to use the word “normal” with my clients because we all have our own respective definitions of that word.  I think it’s normal (and quite tasty) to eat kimchi […]

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Going With The Flow

Just go with the flow. It’s a phrase you hear a lot these days. But what does it actually mean?  How do I do it?  And why do I need to do it? Let me answer that last question first. Why do we need to go with the flow? What’s wrong with preparing and planning? […]

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Spirituality vs. Psychology

***Warning: LONG blog post ahead…. I love reading books about spirituality. From Christianity to Buddhism to the Collective Consciousness and everything else in between.  I just finished a book written by a Zen teacher about the story, teachings and inspiration of Jesus titled Resurrecting Jesus: Embodying the Spirit of a Revolutionary Mystic by Adyashanti.  Great book. […]

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Time to Play!

We’re days away from Memorial Day weekend and here in the Pacific Northwest we are finally seeing little glimpses of Spring & Summer with sunny days and warmer temps.  Lawnmowers are mowing, yard sale signs are signing and hoses are hosing.  When the sun is out, we are pretty good at getting our tushies outside […]

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