Grieving in the Midst of Birthing

I want life to get back to normal. Against our will, we all just left the warm, soothing, familiar comforts of the uterus.  The uterus, representing our old lives before the pandemic, was a life of perceived safety, comfort and predictability.  I say ‘perceived’ because comfort, familiarity, and predictability often get conflated with safety.  As […]

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Take A Deep Breath….

…and slowly let it go….like 4 seconds slow.  Slowing down the exhale signals the parasympathetic nervous system to relax the body. How are you all doing during this global pandemic? If there was ever a time to implement self-care (mental, emotional, physical and spiritual), now would be that time.  And if we can’t go out […]

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Boredom. . .not always a bad thing

Years ago, I found myself telling a client that throwing punches and chairs at a casual summer bbq was not actually normal behavior.  I don’t like to use the word “normal” with my clients because we all have our own respective definitions of that word.  I think it’s normal (and quite tasty) to eat kimchi […]

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Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work

“I try to think positively…I try to say my affirmations, but I still feel bad about myself.” Have you heard these statements before?  Positive thinking has been part of mainstream pop-psychology for a few decades now and I’m kinda done with it.  Here’s why: THEY DON’T WORK.  At least not before you address your negative […]

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Going With The Flow

Just go with the flow. It’s a phrase you hear a lot these days. But what does it actually mean?  How do I do it?  And why do I need to do it? Let me answer that last question first. Why do we need to go with the flow? What’s wrong with preparing and planning? […]

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Time to Play!

We’re days away from Memorial Day weekend and here in the Pacific Northwest we are finally seeing little glimpses of Spring & Summer with sunny days and warmer temps.  Lawnmowers are mowing, yard sale signs are signing and hoses are hosing.  When the sun is out, we are pretty good at getting our tushies outside […]

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Reaction or Over-Reaction?

What’s the difference, right? A reaction is usually an emotionally-neutral response to something or someone. An over-reaction is NOT emotionally neutral.  Not. At. All. And why do we over-react?  Because we’ve just been triggered….by words, a look, a certain tone or silence.  And 9 times out of 10, these triggers have an origin in our […]

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