Parenting Advice, Maybe…

Because one parent’s experience can be so different from another parent’s, parenting can be a tenuous topic to write about. I, myself, am not out of the woods with my role as a parent.  My son is still in the middle of his adolescence.  So I don’t have that wonderful perspective more experienced parents have […]

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Trust

Trust can be a precarious thing in life. I think it’s far easier to come up with a list of things and people we can’t trust than to think of those we can.  Can I trust my partner or spouse with the information I’m about to disclose?  Can I trust my boss to support me […]

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Letting Go

It’s so hard to do, ain’t it? Do you ever wonder why it’s so difficult to let go? I think it’s because we create an identity that aligns with whatever it is that needs letting go. If you’ve been depressed or anxious most of your life, it’s hard to imagine what you would be like […]

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Boredom. . .not always a bad thing

Years ago, I found myself telling a client that throwing punches and chairs at a casual summer bbq was not actually normal behavior.  I don’t like to use the word “normal” with my clients because we all have our own respective definitions of that word.  I think it’s normal (and quite tasty) to eat kimchi […]

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Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work

“I try to think positively…I try to say my affirmations, but I still feel bad about myself.” Have you heard these statements before?  Positive thinking has been part of mainstream pop-psychology for a few decades now and I’m kinda done with it.  Here’s why: THEY DON’T WORK.  At least not before you address your negative […]

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Going With The Flow

Just go with the flow. It’s a phrase you hear a lot these days. But what does it actually mean?  How do I do it?  And why do I need to do it? Let me answer that last question first. Why do we need to go with the flow? What’s wrong with preparing and planning? […]

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Spirituality vs. Psychology

***Warning: LONG blog post ahead…. I love reading books about spirituality. From Christianity to Buddhism to the Collective Consciousness and everything else in between.  I just finished a book written by a Zen teacher about the story, teachings and inspiration of Jesus titled Resurrecting Jesus: Embodying the Spirit of a Revolutionary Mystic by Adyashanti.  Great book. […]

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Time to Play!

We’re days away from Memorial Day weekend and here in the Pacific Northwest we are finally seeing little glimpses of Spring & Summer with sunny days and warmer temps.  Lawnmowers are mowing, yard sale signs are signing and hoses are hosing.  When the sun is out, we are pretty good at getting our tushies outside […]

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Do I Really Have to Forgive? Part 2

The process of forgiveness is not easy, that’s for sure.  But in the end, is one of the most liberating experiences in life! The FIRST step of this process is to EMOTIONALLY resolve your trauma & pain.  This first step is so imperative that I don’t believe you can get to forgiveness without it. So how does one […]

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Do I Really Have to Forgive? part 1

The short answer?  YES. But it’s truly for YOUR. OWN. GOOD.  Truly. I didn’t want to believe it either because I was raised with the belief that forgiving also means forgetting and pretending everything is just fine.  When I went through my own counseling experience having healed from old traumas, I started to believe that forgiveness wasn’t […]

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